Q&A: Help, my GF is a online porn star should I ask her to stop doing it?
Question by Josh P: Help, my GF is an online erotica hotshot should I ask her to halt doing it?
Well I always knew my gf was doing online porn and that never bothered me while we were dating. Now it’s been almost a year and I’m caput maiden heels inlove with her and it’s start to bother me that she does it with other men. I know she enjoys her profession and takes it seriously (she is quite the serious business woman when in meetings) so what should I do about this?also, I do know she loves me a lot and it is just business with those other men, but how tin I ask her to quit her profession?well she asked me if i was okay with it prior to dating and i said yes
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Answer by TNguy38
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January 9th, 2012 at 10:38 pm
Having a profession with the other gender is hard for the bf/gf. Just leave her a note telling her how you feel. (because sometimes talking about it is a little hard) Then she should understand and she’ll talk to you about it.
I KNOW ITS HARD! AND SHE MUST LOVE YOU A LOT!
GOOD LUCK!
January 9th, 2012 at 11:32 pm
Yeah sure…dream on buddy…seriously if this is what she does for a living then I think she is disgusting…and I feel for you….
January 10th, 2012 at 12:18 am
Yeah, of course! I mean, she does it with other men, not you…
January 10th, 2012 at 1:01 am
Ask her really sweetly and gently, let her down easy with a lot of compliments, and saying your very lucky to have her, and that you just feel a little strange when she does it with other men, even just for money and even if its online.
January 10th, 2012 at 1:08 am
Your going to have to post a link so we can give a better informed answer
January 10th, 2012 at 2:03 am
Online porn star? If she is your gf you shouldn’t have to ask her to stop. If she loves you she will find a better profession. Tell her you don’t like it. It’s time for her to grow up and get a real job. There are a lot of other jobs she can get online.
January 10th, 2012 at 2:44 am
lol sorry…just lol
January 10th, 2012 at 2:58 am
tell her flat out that your relationship is too serious for that kind of activity….let her know you realize this is a big request but you are truely in love with her…good luck!
January 10th, 2012 at 3:38 am
You can’t you knew she was doing this when you met her and accepted by continuing to date her and becoming exclusive. This is the same as if you met her in a strip club you can’t expect her to quit her job because you fell in love with her. You really have to deal with it. If she loves her job this much then don’t expect her to give it up. You can express your feelings but you need to be understanding if she tells you no.
January 10th, 2012 at 3:48 am
this is her profession.
if you DEMAND for her to quit, then you would be ruining her career, porn or not. She might not then love you anymore, because everytime she sees you, she might think, “you ruined my career.”
but, talk to her.
tell her how you feel and see what she says and go from there.
if she refuses to, then you have to make a choice:
are you going to spend your life with her?
what about when you guys grow old??
are you willing to stick by her when she gets old and wrinkly and ugly and sick and penniless?
if yes, you should support her job.
if you don’t, then just end it before you get hurt even more.
January 10th, 2012 at 4:45 am
YOU brought this on by dating her when you knew what she did for a living. If you were comfortable then, why can’t you be now?
Or if you were just fooling yourself, why were you expecting her to change?
Realize that this is always going to be a part of her life, so figure out if you want to be in it as well. Her job is a part of who she is, and you KNEW that; there is NO reason to change her profession that she enjoys.
January 10th, 2012 at 5:26 am
You should start by telling her exactly how much you love her and how much her “proffession” bothers you. You never know… Maybe her love for you, and the fact that you’re uncomfortable, will be what makes her stop doing what she is doing. Good Luck…
K~*~